Title: Becoming Flawesome
Author: Kristina Mand-Lakhiani
Publisher: Hay House Inc.
My Rating: 8/10
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Kristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 20 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more.
Being described as “10 years worth of therapy in one book,” Becoming Flawesome by Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani is a celebration of our whole selves, warts and all, and the glory that is to be found in living in our truth. In the book, Kristina shares her own journey from being on top of a personal growth empire like Mindvalley to stepping aside, conscious uncoupling from her husband, and walking her path towards being more honest with herself.
I WAS SUPER EXCITED when I was asked to write a review about this book. Most of the time I love to read romance, but every now and then I also read non-fiction books. This book came at the right time. The advice that Kristina gave in this book was extremely helpful. And I think that this is the kind of book a lot of people could benefit from. Because this book is about the most important relationship, your relationship with yourself.
The book starts very relatable. She uses the term ‘Hermione syndrome’ which means being a good girl (or boy) and trying to be and look perfect. Hermione is from the Harry Potter books and movies and she is an overachiever and does not like to make mistakes. Very relatable, partly because of social media these days. You want to show off your perfect life on social media. But it is just better to accept your flaws and realize that you are not perfect. Nobody is perfect.
Maybe the reason why we are so unhappy these days is that we have an image of the perfect life in our minds. We are always striving for something better and more. Sure, that isn’t always a bad thing. But you should also enjoy the journey and be grateful for the things you already have.
I’ve learned so much from this book and it is probably too much to talk about everything in this book review. Kristina writes about perfectionism, self-love, trying to fix other people, happiness, vulnerability and so much more. She described the difference between self-care and self-love. Sometimes we use the term self-love for things that are actually self-care. For example: we treat ourselves to a delicious pizza and we say it is self-love, instead of self-care. Self-love is all about the inner world, the way you talk to yourself, etc.
I found the part where Kristina says Happiness is a skill very interesting. Most of us would say it is an emotion, I think I did too. But what if it is really a skill? I mean, you can teach yourself to love yourself, to use more positive self-talk, and to view the world from a positive perspective. So maybe it is a skill? This does not mean you have to be perfect and create the perfect life. It is accepting yourself the way you are. She also gives a few techniques to become a happier person, which she talks more about in her ‘7 days to happiness‘ course on MindValley (currently unavailable).
Every chapter ends with a few reflection points, which make you think about your own life and the things you do. This is why I would recommend reading one or two chapters per day. It is not the kind of book you want to finish in a few hours. If you do that, I think you would be overwhelmed with all of the information.
I would definitely recommend getting a psychical copy of this book, this way it is just easier to make notes and mark things you find interesting or important. Plus sometimes you are looking for a specific chapter and it is just easier to find the right chapter with a psychical book in my opinion.
This is the kind of book you want on your bookshelf if you are interested in self-help and advice books and it is now available.
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