This sounds weird to say, but I am 30 now. Today is my birthday and I can’t believe my twenties are over. I still feel like I am in my early twenties mentally and physically. I have to admit that the last year was a rollercoaster of emotions when I realized my thirties were approaching. Suddenly I got this feeling I had to get my shit together. I am single, have no kids and still looking for a new job and I had this feeling I was failing.
Society has an idea about where we should be at 30. We should buy our own house, have a stable job, find the love of our lives and start a family. I have none of those things so I got this feeling that I was weird for not having those things. But then TikTok recommended this video from Gary Vee about being 30 and he said that we are still so young at 30. He said he was still working at a liquor store at 30.
And he opened my eyes, because yes 30 is still so young. Being 60 is still not that old and that is 30 years away. That was the moment for me I realized it was okay and these days I think about this every time I am about to get a meltdown. funny how you get excited about your birthday when you are young, but when you get older you start to hate your birthdays because you don’t want to get older.
Grateful for my twenties
I am definitely feeling a lot better about turning 30 now. And I am also grateful for my twenties. I’ve learned so many good things about life in those years. Around the age of 23, I got burned out and that was the turning point in my life. At first, it was a very rough time but I learned that taking care of yourself comes first.
I think being in your twenties can be a rollercoaster because some are still trying to get their degrees, others are starting their family, some travel the world and others find their dream jobs. Everyone is following their own path and when you are younger everyone goes to school until a certain age, but after that everyone follows their own path. Which is super interesting but it can also make you feel you are not accomplishing anything. It is even ‘worse’ when you have no idea what you want but I found out that most people have no idea what they are doing. At 30, I still have no idea. I mean, I have an idea, but it is not very detailed. That is okay. I think it is better to live your life day by day. Yes, having a goal is good because it helps not to feel stuck in the same place for several years.
Message for your twenties
If you are reading this and you are in your twenties, don’t worry too much about things. You are still young. I see people getting anxious about turning 20 on TikTok, but it is not that big of a deal. We should be grateful for every day, some people will never get this old. Don’t forget to take care of yourself every day. That comes first because that can help you to feel less stressed. And stop spending so much time on your phone. It is not easy to quit or spend less time on the phone, but try to live in the moment more often. I always say: that if you can’t stop scrolling on your phone, the phone controls your life. Take that control back.